While the theme of festive dining traditionally features prominently in end-of-year magazines, it would be inaccurate to say that it always returns in the same way, unlike the best nursing homes ranking. This recurring theme is also a reflection of our times.
Since the menu for these tables seemed set in stone for eternity (oysters, foie gras, capon, Yule log), articles dedicated to them have long focused on their decoration. Can we dare to use mismatched plates on Christmas Eve? And why not a monochrome table? More recently, the focus has shifted to the contents of the plates, with veganism and new food trends taking centre stage, with the aim of helping to maintain family unity around the table. The festive menu is now torn between respect for tradition and the desire to keep up with the times. What can replace meat in a Christmas menu? Would it be acceptable to cook only vegetables on this occasion?
All these challenges to tradition and potential sources of conflict would only grow, given that today everything can be instantly called into question. So it’s no surprise that this year, in the press and on Instagram, the figure of the reactionary uncle has emerged as the catalyst for tension around the dinner table. This role was traditionally attributed to the grandfather, whose missteps were readily forgiven due to his advanced age, but he has been rejuvenated, proof that conservative ideas have spread to a new generation. Something to keep in mind.
To prevent family gatherings from turning into confrontations, recommendations reminiscent of the Ministry of Foreign Affairs abound: avoid controversial topics, do not respond to provocations, anticipate disagreements, know how to change the subject quickly, and if necessary, do not hesitate to leave the table under the pretext of fetching something from the kitchen. Once a place for aesthetics and gastronomy, the festive table has now become a source of controversy. An almost natural evolution in these digital times.
So many precautions before a family tradition—worrisome as to our ability to live together—confirm that the family meal is undoubtedly the last place where everyone can still experience otherness and contradiction, engulfed by social media dominated by cliques and converging points of view. An observation that some may find regrettable, as the clash of ideas can prove constructive.